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Pride Month 2021 Part 1

Peter and I were stoked to sit down and discuss the LGBTQ community, especially the word equality. It is a word that is used often, but what does it mean to have sexual and gender equality? This might seem to be a dumb question, but when we don’t ask questions we tend not to get answers. Noam Chomsky once commented in a small book on the propaganda distributed by mass media:

“You want to create a slogan that nobody’s going to be against, and everybody’s going to be for. Nobody knows what it means, because it doesn’t mean anything. Its crucial value is that it diverts your attention from a question that does mean something.”

Well, we want to know what is mean by equality, and that might take some time; or in our case, some podcasts!

As we discuss equality, we quote GK Chesterton, C.S. Lewis, Noam Chomsky and Kurt Vonnegut Jr’s super awesome write up called, “Harrison Bergeron.”

G.K. Chesterton said, “There is a thought that stops thought, and that is the only type of thought, that ought to be stopped.”

Sometimes when trying to ask questions about what is meant by the word equality on sex or gender issues you can be immediately shut down. This is unfortunate.

The Bible talks about equality, but how does it talk about it? In what way are we equal and it what ways are we not?

Check out this Episode hope it challenges you intellectually and spiritually.

Sex Ed For the Really Young?

May 2021 Already! Can you believe it! This week on the BP Podcast from Running Light Ministries we share our commentary on the sex educator Justine Ang Fonte and her video for six year old’s!

Do you remember being six years old? It’s difficult to remember much of being a little kid let alone thinking about an erection that you might have had! Our point being made was ‘are young children even ready to discuss sexual organs?’ Isn’t it enough for parents to simply be fearful of having your kid in kindergarten/1st grade? Now we need to discuss there genital’s?

The video brings up many questions! What are appropriate sexual topics for a teacher to share with your student? Are you comfortable with the new ideologies that today’s sex educations have? (Intersectional, LGBTQetc…, Social Justice, Gender Identity etc…) This is not the health class of 1985!

In the video that we listen to on the show, Peter points out that a moral judgment is being made on masturbation. The concept of what is right is subtle but in the video. And if there is a right, then there is a wrong. Can kids contextualize sexual pleasure as a recreation?

In the video, a cartoon boy is asking, “Hey, how come sometimes my penis gets big” and points in the air. A cartoon adult responds “That’s called an erection.” The boy then adds, “Sometimes I touch my penis because it feels good.” A cartoon girl responds “Sometimes, when I’m in my bath or when Mom puts me to bed, I like to touch my vulva too.” The adult cartoon character then intimates the little girl, “You have a clitoris there, Kayla, that probably feels good to touch the same way Keith’s penis feels good when he touches it.” She then adds: “Have you ever noticed that older kids and grown-ups don’t touch their private parts in public? It’s okay to touch yourself and see how different body parts feel – but it’s best to only do it in private.”

As Beau listens to the video a second time he points out that there is not a direct reference to masturbation being made. But why do young kids need this kind of education? Is it due to the free distribution of pornography in our world? Do young children need to know about how their body works and its relating to sexual pleasure? Even though I (Beau) was a sexually adventurous young lad growing up in Southern California, I am glad that I didn’t know much about how my genitalia worked. I wonder what would I have done if I did know the functionality of my genitalia. Sometimes when we are unsure, we do not pursue. When young people are confident about the sexual organs then they tend to feel comfortable using them. That rings true from posteriori knowledge in my crew growing up! The young boys I hung out with that knew there body parts better then others tended to use them.

Peter points out that we have laws that assume that youth are not able to consent to sexual decisions. Statutory rape is the example Peter gives. What are the consequences if we did assume that kids could make the right decisions regarding there sexuality? Are there topics that kids are not ready to understand at six years old?

Sharing this kind of sex education in a classroom in front of all kids of kids with all kids of backgrounds has its problems as well. Some kids will know more about there bodies then others. Peter and I have spoken in many public school classes on sensitive topics and half of the students in the Jr. High class are oblivious to the things we are talking about. We at times have felt bad that we brought up topics that could have sparked a curiosity in the kid!

What is the agenda behind this kind of sex education? Is there? Take a listen on the Running Light Better Pleasure Podcast!



LGBTQ…H is in us all?

We are all capable of anything. Do you agree? One thing that human history has shown is that this is true. With sexually it is true too! Any kind of sexual behavior seems to have been done before. Today’s pornography is a great way to understand this. Popular porn has changed as time has moved forward. What was once ‘fringe’ is now common. Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Transgender, Questioning etc.. is all popular porn (well maybe not questioning). And you need to remember that porn is just a reflection of the human mind.

We all need to remember too that LGBTQ has always been in the world! There is nothing new under the sun. In the United States our history is largely influenced by a religious purity movement which currently is being replaced by humanism. Just look at the educators of the country (i.e. John Duey). What was considered right sexual behavior has changed. But don’t get this wrong; it is not new! Could it be that the reason that the purity movement gained a following is due to the LGBTQ movement of old? Of course, I understand that LGBTQ lifestyles were never mainstream or having the legal rights of a man and his wife. But when you look into the different societies of the past, all of them had various legal issues regarding sexual behaviors. True autonomy was not a part of most societies. Though LGBTQ behavior was tolerated on some levels, they were not accepted lifestyles. True human autonomy needed to be allowed, plus the integration of medical/technological advancements. (Don’t underestimate how technology has played a role in the LGBTQ movement. It actually might be the main reason the movement has a voice today.)

When given the opportunity to move any way we want in our sexuality humans will go in every way possible.  There is nothing that we won’t do if allowed. Nothing! LGBTQ is the norm of human beings when given the allowance. The more autonomy we are given the greater the vastness of our sexual behavior. This is normal. What is not normal is resisting the urges to do what you want to do. Do you think there is a rightful place in your life to resist any “temptation?” Do animals resist? Or do they indulge? Is there a government that is holding them back from acting out on their sexual instincts? But we are different aren’t we? We can act out on our sexual urges in every way possible when given the allowance to do so. But do you realize that human beings have something more than instinct that we are working with? We have an interesting capacity to not only follow our urges but also resist them. We can even think through things, using our reasoning ability! We are amazing in this way. But if you want to live like an animal and move away from resisting our sexual urges then what would the outcome be in a society? In the animal kingdom which animals dominate? Do we shame them in how they dominate?

LGBTQ is normal, as is heterosexual sexual relationships. But to live with reason means to have an ability to think through our sexual desires, to resist or choose what is the right thing to do about them. How does my actions affect the future of the species? This is a question we can answer, but we can ignore as well. What questions are we wanting to answer and what questions are we wanting simply to ignore. To reason through our sexual behavior will lead to resisting various actions, which at some level most humans do. But to ignore the ability to reason will move us into fulfilling our urges like an animal does, whether you identify as LGBTQ or heterosexual.. This is what we will do if we have total say as to what we desire to do sexually. Every human has the ability to be base. It is unfortunate that we even have to have LGBTQ as a movement. But it makes sense if a society has been legislating against a particular sexual behavior. Our country’s purity movement has maybe dulled our understanding of human nature. It is hard for me to believe that humans are shocked by the sexual desires of other humans. If there is one thing that pornography shows us is that it is a reflection of us! What is in our hearts, our minds, the cravings that go on in secret is all in pornography.

When sexual desires are legislated and humans are criminalized for all but the “norm” over long periods of time then culture will become shocked, appalled and violent of what is actually the normal tendency which follows our hearts sexual desires. But when laws are implemented to suppress our desires the general public will find it appalling to desire in the first place, only to shame a person for such an action. This is how things have been done (Nazi Germany and Mao in China) and continue to permeate the planet. We are a bit in between worldviews in our country today. It blows my mind that a famous person cheating on their spouse or a person of popularity watching porn would be ‘news’ and given air time. We humans cannot simply allow everyone to do what they sexually desire to do yet! There is a great fear of what could happen, or actually what would happen. We wear clothes for a reason don’t we! It’s not only the weather that keeps clothes on us isn’t it? We all could have a deep understanding of what it was like in our past history of being taken advantage of when naked. Perhaps we hold a remnant in our minds of a time of such sexual atrocities. Like the animals we did what our instincts said. Nothing more, nor less.

Without any restraint, what would we do?

Why God Created Sex

This is a excerpt from the first Chapter of my new book.

There are a few things that you must understand about Christianity. First, that God is personal. What this means is that just as a friend gets to know you, so God is knowable. That’s not all Christians think about the nature of God, but for now you simply need to trust me that this is a truth we hold. Someone might ask for scripture references and I could give them, but really, the entire Bible is about God being available for people to communicate with, sometimes as one friend talks to another.

Second, that God is the first cause of all things. This means that God is the creator of all. But not just that! Everything that is created declares a glory or value of His being. So when the Bible says, the Heavens declare the Glory of God (Psalm 19:1), it means that when I look up into the sky and see the stars, sun, clouds, or planets, I get some kind of truth about the creator. In the case of Psalm 19:1, God is amazing. In what way? Well, the more we understand about the stars, sun, clouds, or planets, the more we get a greater understanding of God’s amazingness. That’s one way to look at it. 

In this same line of thinking, humans are said to be made in the image of God. I find it so fascinating that after the Creation of man and woman, he declares they are made in His image (Genesis 1:27)! So Christians believe that man and woman are made in this image of God. The more scientists study the body the greater our appreciation is for how we are put together. In every area of study of our body scientists are pleasantly surprised by our delicate intricacies. What does all this amazing complexity tell us about God? From a Christian point of view, it shouts glory to the creator. He is the master scientist. But even more than that, the glory that this human precision shows is that God must be complex, for not only are the heavens complex, but we are! I remember before I was a Christian trying to make up a god. What would my god be like? I gave the god human attributes and likeness, qualities that I found worthy of a god. I fashioned a god that I could understand completely. Overall, he was quite the simple deity! Now this god, as you understand him, might be ok for a moment or two, but to Christians, God is not to be fully comprehended (Isaiah 40). No matter what kind of god I construct in my mind, it is nothing like the inventor who created my mind. So Christians believe that God is complex and unique in His nature. 

The last thing we need to understand to move forward to answering the question, “why God created sex,” concerns an insight into the intimacy of God. How God is complex and unique is seen in the functionality of man and woman. I find it fascinating that the declaration of praise that Adam (or mankind) has upon seeing Eve (life) speaks of becoming one flesh. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).” The first command God gave to Adam concerning his relationship with Eve was to be intimate with her. And they would become one. This is God’s doing in his creatures that bear His image and likeness. We are intimate, simply because…God is.