Why Sex Trafficking takes place.

Posted on December 15, 2012 by RLAdmin

I’ll never forget the time I went to hear Natasha Herzig share her story of being abducted out of a small town at 18 years old and brought to the City to be used as a sex slave. Wow the impact that had on all of us in the room listening to her tell this story of pain, struggle for survival and bondage.

Since that time I have seen my share of documentaries on the Sex Industry in Arizona, the U.S.A. and Internationally. All of them tell a different part of the Sex Industry and all of them I recommend others to watch. But none of them have given a real answer to the problem of Sex Slavery. Sex Trafficking exists due to people wanting it to exists There is the elementary principle of supply and demand at work here. For some countries it is an acceptable way to make money for your family. In other countries it is the only way some find a way to stay alive financially.

In our country, sex is how we sell merchandise everyday which creates quite a desire for sex. This over sexed culture gives way to a great demand for sexual experience. Those that are in bondage to sex find pornography a fix and some find prostitution one too. The Sex Traffickers tap into this source no doubt. When more and more people have a obsession for sexual experience and are unable to fulfill this desire freely (without pay) then paying for sex becomes the option. This happens all the time now. You’ve heard of the Online sex dating sites that are in the thousands where you can pay money to be a part of a online sex community, to Ashley Madison the infamous adultery web site. Our culture pays for sex all the time. But largely people agree to it, there is no corrosion or forcing involved.

But what makes legal Ashley Madison and the Illegal Sex Traffickers go is the same desire. Lust!

This is where the documentaries I have seen loose me. The problem is lust in the human heart that would lead someone to find a prostitute. When lust calls there is no logic, rhyme or reason to it, just a incredible itching to get what is desired at whatever the cost.

I never knew many guys growing up that while at a party picking up girls where asking questions like, “how old are you?” “Are you being trafficked?” “Why don’t we just go to a movie and talk a bit to get to know you more.”

Mostly the burning, out of control lust moved them right to ‘GO’ to collect there 200 dollars. (Monopoly) They needed to get to the prize that lust promised. And this is the reason that Sex Trafficking will not stop no matter what laws are in place. Lust happens! Laws are put in place to hopefully nullify the greater evil. You can kill, but laws prohibit first degree murder You can steal, but robbing a bank is against the Law. You can watch porn, but prostitution is illegal. Though the laws are there to prevent the greatest ‘evil’ the potential for the greatest evil is there within us. No law can restrain it.

This is the position of the Holy Bible; “The law is good, but I am sold as a slave to sin!” Nothing is wrong with the Laws that we have, but the problem is that lust continues to rule and reign in the human heart. For those in the Church and those without the Church, lust lives.

There is only one way to stop Sex Trafficking and that is to stop lust. Doesn’t that sound impossible? It is. “What is impossible for man, is possible for God.” Jesus said to a women bound in lustful living that if she took of Him, then out of her would flow rivers of living water. He was letting her know that her desires would be changed, a new heart is what is needed in these situations and Jesus promised to give her one.

Sex Trafficking is my problem. It starts with me and my own lust. Oh, how easy it is to point the finger at those that sell people as sex slaves to get out of the poverty that they have seen there entire life. And how we look down at the pimps, that starting pimping to help mom live a better life. But when I look at why it all works…why Sex Trafficking works, it comes back to my own heart. Lust.

The only way for me to get off this bandwagon of desire is to be given a new heart with new desires and a new pleasure. This is what Jesus gives us to those who drink of Him. For those that make the documentaries on Sex trafficking they will no doubt revert to the need for government crackdowns, new policies and the like to curb the growth of the Sex Slave Industry. But the elephant in the room will be standing…the 900 ft Gorilla of lust will still be there finding a way… and it will!

“A man with an obsession has very little sales resistance,” C.S. Lewis wrote.

The Lust of man needs to be killed. When that is killed, then you have one upped the abolition movement.

The impotence of the Church…Changing Things within

Posted on December 5, 2012 by RLAdmin

“First remove the plank from your own eye and then you are able to remove the plank from your brothers!”
These are no doubt famous words of Jesus of Nazareth used and miss-used over the years. When I read this passage it tells me that as a person I can be quite hypocritical in how I judge others. That hypocrisy can be so blinding that I can no longer make proper judgments towards others. And at worst this passage warns me that there is a continual potential of living in a state of blindness, of obliviousness.
I not only apply this truth of Jesus to me personally, but also to his Church. Can the Church have a plank in it’s eye that renders it’s ability to judge properly? Is the crust in the eye so normal that we simply have become used to it?
I was reading a article from the pro-porn group in Australia that has caught on to this hypocrisy within the walls of the Church. They have a link to a site that is called “Deception” that is dedicated to the facts of case after case of sexual abuse within the holiest of institutions. One particular quote from one of this web site says it all:
“However, there are also people involved in religious orders who, for reasons best known to themselves, use their positions of trust to molest and defile the most vulnerable individuals in our society – young children. Some of them have stooped so low as to have molested intellectually handicapped children.”
What this tells me is that although those outside the Church need to understand that those within the Church are in many ways no different from them, we in the Church have to realize that due to our own failures to uphold the holiness we preach that our testimony to those outside the Church is very hindered. I find this is the reason that legislative work is not the most important think the Church should be doing. I believe that as the Church needs to focus its attention within its walls and not without. If we really have a pleasure in Christ that is ‘better’ than the world, then wouldn’t it come to reason that this joy and pleasure in God would shine to those that do not have it.
The Church needs to govern itself, not those outside the Church! I find great Biblical merit for this in 1st Corinthians Chapter 5. We should be looking at how we do ‘sex’ in the Church instead of judging those whose eyes are not opened to Biblical Truth.
Just think if we all within the Church looked to how we conduct ourselves! Especially us as leaders of the Church! Within every Church there are plenty of areas where we can help people gain a deeper understanding to what God intended for sex, and the incredible joy in it to the Glory of God. Why do we continually need to look at passing legislation that tells those outside the Church to live to a standard that we ourselves within it are not able to conform too?
Here are some examples that I think off:
I am against abortion. I believe that within the Church it would be awesome if there was a pro-life group within every Bible believing Church where there main concern would be that none within that body of believers would consider aborting a child but instead the Church would bring such help to pregnant ladies that they would not need to consider an abortion any more. What love and impact that would make! What a dream that is; the Church would not need to abort any children because of the outpouring of concrete acts of love in the self sacrifice for others!
I believe Pornography is a trap to so many which distorts God’s intention for Sex. If the Church taught their congregations what Sex is for and how it glorifies God, and helped those that were within its walls that desire to break free from bondage to pornography then I believe there wouldn’t be much time left to do much else, especially trying to conform others to our beliefs through legislation.
The Church lacks so much in looking at our own issues that we tend to find the mission of converting the ‘lost’ through law, the way to go. This is not a new phenomenon for sure. In Jesus day it was the Pharisee’s, in the Dark Ages it was the Catholic Church, and today if we are not careful, it will become the evangelical Church repeating the old way of making change in this world. But will it be lasting change?
One thing I know for sure I was once blind, but now I see. Jesus came into my life and changed my heart and desires. What was once of value to me no longer seemed like a treasure. No legislation did this; it was the sharing of the gospel of Jesus. I find it refreshing to read the gospels and see Jesus going from one town to another with just a small group of people, teaching, healing, and talking with those that needed him desperately. Did he go to the Jewish religious scribes to get a new law in the books for those pagans to live by? Did he go to Rome in the hopes of banning the practices of Rome?
When the rabbi Paul was in Rome we are told he preached to all the gospel of Jesus. How cool is that!
As the Church falls in love with its Lord, there groom; Jesus, Change will happen. Abortions will stop in the Church and porn will not seem so pleasurable as it once was. And wouldn’t it be so cool for those outside the Church to look at it from afar and say, “What a particular people those Christ lovers are.” “Within their walls there is no abortion, molestation, or any other harm, but a love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” “I want that.”

Happy Thanksgiving!

Posted on November 22, 2012 by RLAdmin

Happy Thanksgiving from Us at RLM!

We are thankful for all of you!

If you get a chance, read Psalm 100 today, and think of the mercy of God in our lives!

Though we deserve death, through Christ blood we have been given life. Thankfulness is a responsive expression. When we are given something by someone, knowing that we do not deserve it, but that thing we have is understood as a gift, then the response is a heart of Thankfulness.

We cannot be Thankful if we believe that what we have is not a gift.
We cannot be Thankful if we believe what we have is deserved.

Why would anyone be thankful for what they earned by there own merit! When you work 8 hours and get 8 hours of pay, do you thank your boss or is the paycheck what is to be expected by working 8 hours? You wouldn’t be thankful, nor do we thank our bosses every time we get paid…we earned it!

But what if your boss gave you double what you get paid! Wow how thankful we would be every time we received the extra gift. Why? Because we know we didn’t earn it nor work towards it, but it was a act of benevolence from the one who could give it.

God glorifying Thankfulness is when we recon that we have received a paycheck that we didn’t deserve. God who is “rich in mercy” sent His One and only Son to pay a price for sin, our sins, that we could not pay without it costing us Hell.

Thankfulness is a response we have in understanding this act of mercy on the Fathers part on our behalf. We appreciate God.

Those that do not believe in the Living God must believe that all they have received is something earned for themselves and not from a Creator/Sustainer/Sovereign Being. What would they be Thankful for? Random mutation over time resulting in a larger brain? How would one define Thankfulness? Isn’t that just a idea with no concrete meaning?

Our country today will celebrate Thanksgiving today, yet so many have rejected the ideas that make up this Holiday. Whenever we remove the Creator we by default succumb to a meaningless existence, though how impossible is it to live that way!

“because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Professing to be wise, they became fools…” Romans Chapter 1

Getting mixed signals about sexual behavior!

Posted on November 13, 2012 by RLAdmin

I notice two news articles today. One of them is regarding General Petraeus and the other Elmo from the Sesame Street fame. The later has to do with the voice of Elmo’s sexual behavior with a minor.

In a culture that is educated in Freud, Kinsey, Darwin, and Huxley it seems a bit hypocritical to get in such a pinch about General Petraeus affair or the voice of Elmo guy who has a thing for someone under the age of 18.

Reading the news you would think we live in a culture that believes there is a absolute right and wrong way to our sexual behavior.

I find it scary that on one hand a person can say, “hey if that makes you happy then who am I to question what you deem to be true,” and then on the other hand hold the same person to any standard of living at all. And then to publicly humiliate them by making it ‘news!” Ouch talk about the thing you love hating you back.

What makes something right or wrong anyway? Is that just person choice? Are you really able to say that your sexual preference is any better than mine?

Let me confuse you more! How about polygamy? Why is that ‘wrong.’ What’s wrong with being married and having a affair? The Romans used to have a wife and also a lover on the side. Also the rich Romans used to engage in under age sex all the time! It was considered a sexual delicacy, as it still is in some parts of our world.

The profound question rings out today from the Roman governor of Judea “What is truth?” Pilate asked.

We teach Freud the pervert as he had the answers to life’s difficulties and hardships.

We teach Darwin to understand that we are nothing more than a animal.

We teach Kinsey the pedifile as he has the answers to the meaning of sex.

Well which is it?

Is there a right or not?

Jesus gives us a answer to this delusional world. “If I have told you earthly things and you do not believe, how will you believe if I tell you heavenly things?”

Jesus claims to have the insight on what is true about this world and another. Jesus was so cool to not propagate the, ‘you believe what you want to believe,” mentality. Instead he spoke what He called, “The Truth” and actually claimed himself to be that Truth.

Ah, you say,”that was written thousands of years ago by some crazy monks living in a bunker.” “We know from science that there is no God, no Truth, no Way…We know from Freud that the answer is in behavior modification through therapy and that Kinsey is right to say that sexual anarchy works great!”

And maybe the culture can stop pretending that sexual behavior matters.

There is a better way!

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.”

Don't Underestimate the Greatness of Joy In Christ. Like in Intimacy!

Posted on October 16, 2012 by RLAdmin

Christian marriage is awesome. My wife and I enjoy each other every day…really we do, every day. And we have for so many years now. When we grew up we enjoyed talking to each other and when we dated in college the same joy was there and now after 19 years of marriage that joy remains and continues to grow. Every day of our lives together has been a experience in this joy. As young adults we thought all Christian couples were like this, yet 18 years of counseling in the Church as been quite the rude awakening. So many Christian marriages are not like mine. Love for the beloved is absent. In my book I wrote about how the time Jesus had on this earth was not a indifferent love, put a passionate one. He in no way was a man of lifeless sacrifice. “For the joy set before He endured the cross!” He loves His beloved. He promised to come back at a unknown time and take His betrothed to the wedding chamber. What a picture of passion in intimacy. A husband & a wife together in their wedding chamber where the marriage bed is!

Sex is not to be undermined as a secondary thing in the Christan marriage. For when God made Eve we see in Genesis 2 that sex was the action that showed the two becoming one flesh. Though they are two distinct and separate persons, they now through the sexual act become one flesh. There is a connection in the one flesh relationship, and a intimate one at that! And for Adam there no doubt was a joy like no other at that moment, as so there should be for us.

I don’t think Adam had to think about having sex with Eve his wife. It was the natural overflow of the love they experienced towards one another.

For my wife and I, we care for one another. Our joy is in the joy of each other. I love seeing her grow and blossom as a independent woman! She loves to play sports, spend time with her best friend, and watch movies. Though I don’t necessarily enjoy the same things she does, I have great joy in entering into her joy by participating in activities with her. She loves it that I like to be around her and experience the joy she has. He joy becomes my joy and we together share it! I like that.

The marriage bed is the greatest area where this sharing of joy is experienced mind and body! Through the sexual act we experience a better understanding of God, as God is one, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, so we to understand this better through intimacy! How cool is that!!! Also God’s love (agape) should be on display in the marriage bed at all times! Love and not lust! Love is desire for goodness and joy of the other, not your own desire at the others expense. So many times it saddens me to hear about many in the Church where there sex life is out of duty and not joy! The marriage bed is to point you to Jesus and His Church! Jesus loves his Church and as stated is passionate about her. This is the example to us. Relations in marriage should be joyful. You will certainly see how self fish you are by how you relate to one another sexually in marriage. (I could write a whole chapter on that alone.) Sex is not about you, it’s about glorifying God as all things are (Col 3:17). If you make it about you then you can seriously damage your marriage by misusing this most important area. For instance if you are unable to show the passionate agape love in the wedding bed then how will you show it outside of it? The bed is the most intimate you will be with your spouse. It is just you two and that’s it! The marriage bed is a place where we learn to move in agape love, seeking the joy of the other. This is what is so cool about Song of Solomon. Though Solomon was a pervert of the first rank, the Lord used him to write this wonderful picture of the sexual relationship between a man and his wife and how it is a picture of God and His people. This shouldn’t be to weird of a thought to us who have studied our Bibles as God is always speaking relationally to His people in Husband Wife allegory. Learn to grow in your enjoyment of one another. Pray and ask the Lord to be honored and seen through this intimacy between you and your beloved!

Oh, how killer it is to be in love. I am 40 now. I still kiss her like I always have. We love to be together to hang out together to laugh and flirt with one another and I pray your marriage will find such joy too! This is my hearts desire! It’s to let people know that Jesus does this work in our lives. Our bed is about Jesus and wow how awesome are the pleasures of God!

“Come drink from the river of my pleasures!” Psalm 36:8

Beau James Ouellette – www.runninglight.org

A place where there is no desire for porn.

Posted on October 5, 2012 by RLAdmin

There is such a place and I’d like to share it with you.
In our ‘Babylon’ of sexuality it is nice to find a place where value is placed in something else besides sex. The place I have been blessed to be in lately is a old folks home in Tucson, AZ. Not much desire for pornography sex, or lust for matter of fact.
What I find so refreshing about this place is the freedom from the battle itself in such a place. Why is the battle less in there than outside?
Context!
Isn’t context everything when reading a book or interpreting a conversation? The context within the elderly community is bodies falling apart, sadness crying…people unable to move. When seeing this context there is no desire for anyone to lust, for there is a sure greater need. In Babylon it seems that sex is the great value, but in the elderly home there is no need for such elementary party activities. Love, compassion, patience and understanding are at the forefront of the need in these places. Just try to find arousal in such a place! You will find none!
God is the greatest value. An investment in learning about God can follow you into the life after. And this makes the endevour worth all the riches in the world.
If we could see the needs of those in our ‘Babylon’ as those inside the elderly home then maybe we would start seeing things in a proper context and not find ourselves in bondage to lust.
Get out in your community and see what needs are there. Realize the joy of Christ love through helping others. This is the Better Pleasure.
Mark 9:37 Whoever welcomes one of these little children (those that need) in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.”
If we want more of Christ we will.

19 And Counting!

Posted on September 5, 2012 by RLAdmin

19yrs ago at Calvary Chapel of Simi Valley, Pastor Dave Guzik officiated Sylvia Urban Ouellette and I getting married in front of our friends and some family members. What a special time for us.
I returned from living in Kauai just a short time before. We were young and making a decision to go after a relationship with Jesus with all we had and we never looked back! To our friends that supported us, we were stoked to have them be a part of this radical step of faith.
We did not plan a reception or have wedding rings. There were no invitations mailed out for the wedding either. Pastor Dave thought it a cool testimony to perform the wedding ceremony on a Sunday service for the Church! What a concept right?
Sylvia looks just as gorgeous today as she did back then. I think she get’s better looking with time. But that is the working of love. Love works in consort with time. The longer love works the stronger it becomes and the deeper it’s roots go.
What I believe makes my marriage strong is the following list I made up for those that desire a stronger marriage. Sylvia and I have the same flaws as all of us on the planet. We are no different from anyone with a fallen nature. I do thank God for the grace of His Word that is in our hearts that has kept us at such a joyful state for so long now. Through my own bout with porn and selfish-gratification my wife has stood by me and fought along side with me. What could have easily torn down our marriage God used to have us fight together the lust of the flesh! The result has been growth in our relationship.

We are both complete in Christ!
We don’t need each other!
We both have our own relationship with Jesus….Accept it!
We both have different gifts! Don’t make the other like you!
Spend time laughing with and at each other!
Spend time pleasing one another! For that is your own joy!
Spend time sharing what God is doing in each of your lives.
Do things by yourselves that are special just between you two!
Be merciful to each other… None of us are as good as we think we are.
Give grace like Jesus!
Forgive one another! Jesus forgave you!
Fight together against the world! Make it you two against the Matrix, because it is!

Another viewpoint on the influence of women from long, long ago

Posted on August 3, 2012 by RLAdmin

I am always amazed at how dead on the Bible can be. Israel and Judah are one country that struggled to fall into various area’s that would only hurt the country. One of them was in sexual sin. This is defined as any sexual activity that is not what God intended at the Creation of, and institution of marriage. Israel like me have looked away from what God intended to others ideas of how to use our sexuality. This section of Ezekiel concerns itself with God’s judgement on the women of the day who with all the great intentions of the world in creating a environment of liberty really brought many into serious bondage.

I must say honestly the passage reminded me a bit of the porn industry today and it’s debates on the goodness of it’s product for the world.

I do believe that those in the industry do not look at right or wrong from a Biblical perspective and I do not say that they must. And for those governments that judge if it’s product is good by subjective reasoning, then I imagine they will continue to push there product to more and more people.

For us in the Church that do believe in a moral law giver we must understand that to view or not to view is on us. We don’t need to have a TV, or Computer. And if we decide to have these unnecessary items in our possession no-one is forcing us to buy porn or view it! We have filter programs for both items mentioned.

My thought is that God will judge one day…This is a theme of the book of Revelation. But until that day, do not be surprised when those who don’t hold to a Biblical worldview don’t agree with your view point. But what must be stopped is our own pretense and hypocrisy as those that complain and debate, yet do not engage our own crew as to how we can move away from such stuff.

The rabbi Paul wrote, “God will judge those outside the Church.”

Ezekiel reminds me that those very successful women of today are accountable to there maker like everyone. I hope we can show them a greater pleasure until that time.

17-19 “And the women prophets—son of man, take your stand against the women prophets who make up stuff out of their own minds. Oppose them. Say ‘Doom’ to the women who sew magic bracelets and head scarves to suit every taste, devices to trap souls. Say, ‘Will you kill the souls of my people, use living souls to make yourselves rich and popular? You have profaned me among my people just to get ahead yourselves, used me to make yourselves look good—killing souls who should never have died and coddling souls who shouldn’t live. You’ve lied to people who love listening to lies.’

20-21 “Therefore God says, ‘I am against all the devices and techniques you use to hunt down souls. I’ll rip them out of your hands. I’ll free the souls you’re trying to catch. I’ll rip your magic bracelets and scarves to shreds and deliver my people from your influence so they’ll no longer be victimized by you. That’s how you’ll come to realize that I am God.

22-23 “‘Because you’ve confounded and confused good people, unsuspecting and innocent people, with your lies, and because you’ve made it easy for others to persist in evil so that it wouldn’t even dawn on them to turn to me so I could save them, as of now you’re finished. No more delusion-mongering from you, no more sermonic lies. I’m going to rescue my people from your clutches. And you’ll realize that I am God.'”

The Beloved!

Posted on June 26, 2012 by RLAdmin

Oh the enjoyment of the beloved!”Oh, how I long to gather you, Jesus said to the people of Jerusalem!”One thing in life that I am so grateful for is time alone with my wife! I thank the Lord for this time we have together. Today it was at a Southern California beach. But throughout our marriage it has been simply just eating together or playing a sport together. But the joy of seeing the beloved’s joy is the best! Covenant love is something that I see having attraction in it. I see this throughout the Jewish writtings! Issac loved Rebekah (Gen 25:67), Jacob had such a great love for Rachel that working 7 years seemed like “only a few days” to him (Gen 29:20), and of course there is so many other places where a deep joy in the beloved is seen.I am blessed to go to travel and go to the beach with my wife today. This is not something all people can do and I realize that more than ever. No matter what economic status I have had, because Jesus has given me a love for my beloved, we have found times and places to make our own. These places are holy, they are special between us alone. The most special place is the marital bed. Hebrews 13:4, tells us how special this place of fellowship is! “Keep it pure!” This is the place where the joy of the beloved should shine. This is the places where no-one else shares with you two. It is a place where the two become one as Jesus is with His beloved!What kind of special places to you have with your spouse? Do you even have one?Jesus goes and prepares a place for you and I, His beloved, His Church! This will be a time of taking us out…a time of dinning out with our Savior! When I am with my beloved here on earth, I think of Jesus taking us with him and see that this is just a preview of coming attractions.Jesus will passionately take His bride. There will be nothing boring about it! Nothing mundane!Does our Christian marriages experience this joy! Only Jesus can give it! Ask, Seek and Knock for it…Matthew 7:7My kids are great….but they are not Christ and the Church! My wife and I are…cultivate it in Christ. Your kids will be stoked you did!”Thank you Jesus for these times with my beloved. 19 years now you have given me this joy. Forgive me of the times I have lusted after other people, and please continue to change this sick heart to your glory! May today be a day rooted in your love and grace!”

Colorado Part 2 An Interview with a Ex-Stripper

Posted on June 11, 2012 by RLAdmin

I remember my first Pastor, Dave Guzik, telling us one day in a service to pray for an opportunity daily to share the Gospel. The more you do, the more ready you are and willing to see the opportunities that God brings to us. “Blessed are the feet of those who bring good news!” And wow is the gospel good news….But only to those that are sick, perishing, in bondage and in need of forgiveness. Only certain people realize there need for Christ. And if you have been sharing for any period of time in your Christian walk you realize that some human beings feel quite good about their chances to get into heaven without the blood of Christ as their payment for sin. This leads me to my current story.

In Denver, I went to the local sports bar to watch the LA Kings and NJ Devils in the Stanley Cup Playoff’s. I could have watched it at my friend’s house by myself, but it’s hard to have an opportunity to share Christ with someone when you are the only one in a room! haha

So off I was thinking there could be an opportunity here. My waitress opened up within the first 15 minutes of the hockey game, letting me know she was recently married and asked me where I was visiting from and what I do for work. I love it when someone ask me what my occupation is! This is a huge time to share Christ for us that are financially compensated for the work of the ministry.

Sharing what I do at Calvary Christian is fairly simple, but when I share what Running Light Ministries is all about then you really know where people are at. Think about it… what is R.L.M. all about? It’s about Hebrews 12:1! So that gives me a great place to quote the Word of God and begin to tell them about my own life of no longer running the race weighed down by daily patterns of lustful sin.

This young lady that was at the table was very interested and began to share herself of her own life. Come to find out she was an ex stripper in the Denver area and had worked in the Adult Entertainment world do to the generous financial compensation received while ‘dancing.’

This confession lead me to ask her if she would be open to having me ask her some questions about her time in this occupation. She, I think, was surprised yet happy to participate.

Now you have to realize that the whole point of opportunities is to share Christ. If this is not the motivation and treasure of our hearts then there is no good thing that can come out of such a time. I think of John 4. Jesus goes out of His way to meet with a whore of sorts at the water well. Why…do share living water! And this I was eager to do.

My questions were the following;

Did you find what you did pleasurable? Answer was NO.

Do you think any of the ladies that you met who also ‘danced’ thought it pleasurable? Answer NO.

How did you all get through it? Answer was Drugs

She then proceeded to share her how drugs were used to fade out the conscious towards what they were doing. She also talked about women that where mom’s and needed the income and felt this was the sure way to make enough for her children. But all of the ladies she knew did some sort of drug to get through the night.

It was also a great revelation to hear her talk about how it was not looked as pleasurable on the lady’s part. It was work! Ahhh….This is so important for me and others who have bought into an illusion that those in the Adult industry are all enjoying what they do and so they do it. This is not the case. Maybe some do, but many, many see it as a means to an end. Pleasure is not the end, financial benefit is.

She cooperated in my probing questions and kept coming back to answer more during her breaks. The game went on and then finished up and the waitress was told she could clock off and go as the place was emptying out a bit. What happened next was absolutely awesome!

After peppering her with many questions that revolved around the false idea of pleasure in this world, she asked me how I became a Christian! For those of us in Christ this is the greatest times of excitement for us. This is where we boast in the Cross of Christ to save a sinner like me!

I happily shared Sylvia (my wife) and my testimony. Remember she had clocked out and could have left at any time now. But there was something she wanted to hear and I didn’t want to disappoint! After sharing the holiness of God, the need for forgiveness, the grace and mercy of the Father through the work of the Son on the Cross, I asked her if this was a bit much and she (i could tell) was totally into it!

I let her know that I need Christ. I am a sinner, and she was too…Christ came for her, to save her and give her a forgiven, new life! What a treasure Jesus is!

I don’t think she had ever heard the gospel as a gospel for people like her. She knew she has stumbled mightily in sin. She was trying to get out of the life. Her new marriage was going to be a challenge so she asked me how my marriage had lasted 19 years. Christ was my answer. Being complete in Christ! Coming at relationships with fullness, not emptiness. She was the best listener as sinners who hear the voice of their Savior is sweet to the ear!

She received everything I shared gladly. Now it’s the work of the Spirit to bring her to that treasure Christ is. She is ready to receive! My hope is that after we departed, she prayed and had that conversation with the Father.

I watched maybe half of the game in and out of these conversations. But this was way better than any game.

Once again this meeting with an Ex Stripper solidified the idea that those that work in the Adult industry many times don’t see things as those that watch them. It is not pleasurable to them in the sence of being aroused sensuality. They see the paycheck, the mortgage or rent paid, the ability to feed family. This is no doubt why this way of arousal will never satisfy the voyeur. The well they drink from is not satisfied so they are not as well.

Another thought that continued to come up is that when they can get out they do. Living this Adult life style can only last so long for many of these people. There is something in them that speaks against what they are doing, and when they drink or drug untill they cannot cope without such anesthetic, they crash and burn…and later get out.

God is drawing her and many like her with gentle cords…with bands of love. God is the great Savior of those that have turned to idols only to be found wanting. May God continue to work in her heart to His Glory, that one day she would be used to minister to many through her testimony, as I am mine.

Look at things in the proper context! This encounter certainly put things again in the right place for me.

Beau